Stubborn Moms and the true meaning of guilt

“Help, I’ve fallen and I can’t get up” This phrase is so popular; it draws a smirky smile on those who imitate the annoying t.v. commercial for its non-stop repetitiveness.

My own Mom fell today. As I’ve written in the past, my Mom is an amputee and maneuvers around on crutches beautifully. She no longer enjoys wearing her prosthetic (she’s had about 10 over the years). But she fell and apparently she fell very hard!!!!

Well, one would think that my Mom, a retired advertising executive would not shy away from a simple phone call to her very own loving and caring daughter, saying “Help, I’ve fallen and I can’t get up.”

So what does my Mom do instead… she remains lying on the floor as her obnoxiously overweight cat meows non-stop, and then after about 15 minutes of lying there in pain, she musters up enough strength to get into the den, then finally the kitchen to seek ice. And all the while, she had her portable phone in her back pocket.

Does she call me … NO. Why … because she doesn’t want to bother me. She knows I was at the beach with my family and didn’t want to “ruin our fun or make me leave early.”

Thank God that I called her later that afternoon just to say hi. She casually told me she fell, that she was in pain, and that she wasn’t sure if anything was broken.

Immediately I jumped in the car, left my husband to deal with the kids, and took her to the emergency room. After 5 sets of x-rays, we learned that her stump was fractured!

Tell me how FURIOUS I am that she didn’t call me right away. She sat in her house for 5 hours just so she wouldn’t “bother me”.

My advice to ALL parents … let your own children decide if they are feeling too overwhelmed to be bothered. I don’t think I’ve ever been quite as upset or angered by this feeble attempt to give me guilt! Though I do know my Mom was not purposely trying to give me guilt, she did.  |  digg it!  |  reddit reddit!  |  Google!

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